Why do children need daily work?
Why do children need routines?
Because routines give them a sense of security and help them develop self-discipline.
Humans are afraid of a lot of things, but “unknown” in addition to death and the public speaking of most people,
The children’s fear of the unknown includes everything from suspicious new vegetables to big changes in their lives. Unfortunately, children face changes every day, which is an opportunity for growth and stress.
The definition of growth is that their bodies are constantly changing. Babies and toddlers give up pacifiers, bottles, breasts, cribs, and they stand in the house. New teachers and classmates come and go every year. They solve and learn new skills and information at an alarming rate, from reading, crossing the road to football and cycling. Throughout childhood, few children lived in the same house. Most of the time it moved to new cities and, of course, new communities and schools.
And these changes are rarely in children’s control.
Like the rest of us, children can do their best if they can do the best they can and be able to function in a familiar everyday life. A predictable program to make children feel safe and develop their own lives. As this sense of mastery intensifies, they can cope with bigger changes: they go to school, shop at stores and go to sleep camps.
Unforeseen changes – mother call an unexpected business travel, best friend, or more intense, parents’ divorce or grandparents died – erosion this security and master consciousness, lets the child feel anxious, unable to cope with changes in life. Of course, many changes are inevitable. But that’s why we provide children with a predictable basis for everyday life – so they can cope with big changes when they need it.
While helping children feel safe and ready to meet new challenges and development tasks, they can provide a reason for their structure, as well as another important development role. Structures and routines teach children how to constructively control themselves and their environment.
Children from troubled homes, if organized, do not learn that life can run smoothly. In families with no fixed time and space for homework, children never learn how to sit down and complete unpleasant tasks. Children who do not carry out basic self-care, from grooming to food, may find it difficult to take care of their young. Structure allows us to internalize constructive habits.
Will our spontaneity and creativity have too much structure?
Of course, if there’s no sensitivity. Sometimes the rules are broken, such as staying up late to watch an eclipse or putting dinner dishes in the sink. But even the most creative artists, beginning with their mastery of the past, find the pinnacle of their expression in the context of specific rules.
A structure without reason must be oppressive. Think of it as your friend, offering small routines and traditions that make life easy and easy. Your child will not only be immersed in a sense of security, but will also internalize his or her ability to live.
Does this mean that the baby should do routine work as soon as possible?
No! Babies tell us what they need. We feed them when we’re hungry and change them when they’re wet. Over time, they learned the usual first step: we sleep at night. But forcing babies to adapt to our daily lives does not meet the needs of your baby. She hasn’t been able to get used to you. If her needs are not met, she will feel as if the world is a place where she is not satisfied, so she must resort to drama to achieve her ends.
When your baby is in her infancy, she will set up her own routine and schedule it for a certain amount of time. The solution for most babies is fairly predictable. We can help them by building our day around their needs, for example, we make sure that she is suitable for her nap when she usually sleeps. Gradually, over time, we can respond to the natural diet and sleep schedule by making a routine work that fits her and the family.
Seven benefits of using routines with your child.
General elimination of power struggle.
Rituals eliminate the power struggle, because you’re not complaining about your kids. This activity (brushing your teeth, napping, turning off the TV for dinner) is what we do at this time. Parents are no longer bad people.
Routines help children work together.
Rituals help children collaborate by reducing stress and anxiety in everyone. We all know what happens next, we get a fair transition warning, no one feels pulled down, or like parents are arbitrary.
Rituals help children learn to master their own activities.
Over time, children learn how to brush their teeth, pack their bags, and so on without constant reminders. Children like to be responsible for themselves. This feeling increases their sense of mastery and competence. Those who feel more independent and responsible are less likely to resist and resist.
Children learn the concept of “expecting” something they like.
This is an important part of making happy accommodations according to the schedule. He may want to go to the playground now, but he can see that we always go to the playground in the afternoon and he can look forward to it.
Regular routines help children finish tasks on time.
Regular routines can help children finish tasks on time and make it easier for them to fall asleep at night.
Routine helps parents build valuable connections.
We all know that we need to get in touch with our kids every day, but when we focus on getting the kids to bed, we miss the connection. If we build some connection rituals in our daily lives, they become habits. When you see them for the first time every morning, try to keep a close relationship with each child, or try to “know” them when you first get together.
“I look at you with those beautiful grey eyes, I like them very much!” Or the naming ceremony after the shower: “dry your toes… Your shin… Your knees… Your thighs… Your penis… Your belly… ”
Ceremony like this will make you slow down, the intrinsic relation between you and your children together, if you take them as part of the “daily work”, they will establish security as well as contact and cooperation.
7. The schedule helps parents maintain consistent expectations.
If it’s all a fight, then the parents will eventually solve it: more TV, skipping tonight’s brushing. Through routine, parents are more likely to stick to the health expectations of everyone in the family, because it’s just the way we do things our family. The result: a healthy family, everything goes better!