Why do children need daily work?
Why do children need routines?
Because routines give them security and help them develop self-discipline.
Humans are afraid of many things, but beyond death and the public speaking of most people, “unknown”,
Children’s fear of the unknown includes everything from suspect new vegetables to major changes in their lives. Unfortunately, children face change every day. It’s an opportunity for growth and stress.
The definition of growth is that their bodies are constantly changing. Babies and toddlers give up pacifiers, bottles, breasts, cribs, they stand in the house. New teachers and students come and go every year. They solve and learn new skills and information at an alarming rate, from reading to crossing the road to football and cycling. Since childhood, few children have lived in the same house. Most of the time it moved to new cities, as well as new communities and schools.
These changes are rarely under the control of children.
Like the rest of us, children can do their best if they can do what they can and play a role in the familiar day-to-day life. A predictable plan to make children feel safe and develop their own lives. As this sense of mastery grows, they can cope with bigger changes: they go to school, they shopping in stores, and then they go to sleep camps.
Unforeseen changes – mother said surprisingly business travel, best friends, or more intense, parents’ divorce or grandparents died – erosion this security and master consciousness, lets the child feel anxious, unable to cope with the change of life. Of course, many changes are inevitable. But that’s why we provide children with a predictable basis for daily life – so they can cope with major changes when they need to.
While helping children feel safe and ready to meet new challenges and development tasks, they can justify their structure and another important development role. Structures and routines teach children how to control themselves and their environment constructively.
Children from troubled families will not know that life will go on smoothly if they are organized. In homes with no fixed time and space for homework, children never learn how to sit down and do unpleasant tasks. Children without basic self-care, from grooming to food, may find it difficult to take care of their children. Structure allows us to internalize constructive habits.
Do we have too much structure for spontaneity and creativity?
Of course, if there’s no sensitivity. Sometimes rules are broken, such as staying up late to watch the eclipse or putting dinner dishes in the sink. But even the most creative artists, starting with their mastery of the past, find the peak of their expression in the context of certain rules.
The unjustified structure must be oppressive. Think of it as your friend, offering easy-to-use routines and traditions. Your child not only basks in security, but also internalizes his or her life skills.
No! Babies tell us what they need. We feed them when they are hungry and replace them when they are wet. Over time, they learned the usual first step: we went to bed at night. But forcing babies to adapt to our daily lives is not enough. She’s never been able to get used to you. If her needs are not met, she will feel that the world is a place she is not satisfied with, so she must resort to drama to achieve her goal.
When your baby is in her infancy, she will establish her own routine and schedule a period of time. Most baby solutions are predictable. We can help them by building our day around their needs, for example, by making sure that she is right for her siesta when she sleeps a lot. Gradually, over time, we can cope with the natural diet and sleep schedule by doing a routine that suits her and her family.
Seven benefits of using routines with your child.
General elimination of power struggle.
Rituals eliminate power struggles because you’re not complaining about your children. This activity (brushing your teeth, taking a nap, turning off the TV dinner) is what we do now. Parents are no longer bad people.
Routines help children work together.
Rituals help children collaborate by reducing everyone’s stress and anxiety. We all know what’s going to happen, we get a fair transition warning, no one feels pulled down, no one feels like a parent.
Rituals help children learn to master their own activities.
Over time, children learn how to brush their teeth, pack up, etc., without having to be reminded. Children like to be responsible for themselves. This feeling increases their sense of mastery and ability. Those who feel more independent and responsible are less likely to resist.
Children learn the concept of “expecting” what they like.
This is an important part of making happy accommodations on a schedule. He may want to go to the playground now, but he can see that we always go to the playground in the afternoon, he can expect it.
Regular routines can help children complete tasks on time.
Routines help parents build valuable connections.
We all know we need to keep in touch with our children every day, but when we focus on getting them to bed, we miss that connection. If we build rituals in our daily lives, they become habits. When you see them for the first time every morning, try to stay close to each child, or try to “get to know” them at your first party.
‘I looked at you with those beautiful grey eyes, and I loved them very much! Or a naming ritual after a shower: “dry your toes Your tibia Your knee Your thighs Your penis Your stomach ”
Such rituals slow you down, the internal connections between you and your children, and if you make them part of your “daily work,” they will build security and connections and cooperation.
Schedules help parents maintain consistent expectations.
If it’s all a battle, then parents will eventually solve the problem: more TV, skipping the brushing tonight. Through daily work, parents are more likely to stick to the health expectations of everyone in the family, because this is just the way we do family business. The result: a healthy family, everything is better!